Meanwhile no one knows how much time we have here in this life so make the most of it and don't waste it, try to live your dreams, set your goals and do the things you always wanted to do and never never take anyone you love for granted, just be sure you are always good to them and let your love and appreciation for them show, then you'll have no regrets.
My husband died in his sleep on the 3rd of May this year.The shock was enormous.There has been so much to do,so many forms to full in,and I have cleaned the place from top to bottom.Now comes the tears.The two Greyhounds need looking after and are great company,but here come the tears.Death comes to us all,we don't know when or how.Keep all your loved ones close,very close.Be kind,flowers at the funeral can't replace the person.
I am the one responsible for the burials in my family (Father, Mother, Sister, Aunt). I miss my father the most because I never got to say goodby to him in my heart. For the others, I did say those internal good byes. Death is the normal outlook of life. Accept it. Love your loves each day. The first year after a death is the hardest because it is the first New Years without them, the first Valentines Day without them, the first birthdays without them, etc. Accept it and keep moving on. If your brother is overseas, either in Iraq or Afghanistan, he has my thanks and admiration. Got to stop here. Somebody nearby must be cutting onions as my eyes are starting to tear.
Death is an inevitable part of life. As you know, most people deal with it by denying their mortality. They say that there is another existence waiting for them, and that they have an immortal soul, which will live on in a heavenly paradise.
Since about seven out of eight people think this way, you can handle their passing by telling yourself that they are in a better place, and donating to the charity that funds research into the illness that killed them.
It's a little more difficult to lose one of us like myself who have the moral courage to accept our mortality, and for whom death is the start of one last long sleep. With us you just say, it was good to know him/her, and he/she will be missed.
Everything that lives has to die eventually to make room for new life.
Meanwhile, try reading 'Sum' by David Eagleman.
No one I know has died around me, but as the time is nearing, I'm worried someone WILL. I can't get these thoughts out of my head! I'm such a wimp! When my brother got into a fight with his enemy, I just stared and cried helplessy! I'm such a freaking wimp, and I hate myself for that. I'm scared that someone will die, will you please help me handle situations like this?
