There is a very good reason why young girls going through puberty simply ooze sensuality.
Nature has made it so in order to instill our desires to reproduce.
We are all still animals with animal instincs, no matter how hard we try to deny this because of our modern "civilised" society.
Let me explain.
There have been many times in my life when I have done the same.
I have seen a pretty young girl and been immediately immobilised. My mouth became dry and I started sweating profusely, I couldn't speak and I couldn't look away.
This is undoubtably what this older guy was going through.
One of the major faults with this natural event is that it does not just affect young men, this sensation can return your whole life long. Another fault is that young men are often too naive to recognise or feel this, or if they do, they are too frightened or get too embarrassed to do anything about it.
So the "dirty old man" syndrome came about, because some of these older men stared and gaped, whereas the younger ones would simply turn their heads in embarrassment.
You should be flattered that now you are becoming a woman, and with that, an object of sexual desire to men.
With civilisation comes responsibility and acceptable behaviour. For a much older man to look can be construed as flattering and an acceptable compliment, for him to do anything more is not.
When this gets out of hand to an extreme then things like rape or sexual molesting can occur.
It is all to do with how much self control each man has, and how they adapt to sexual signals that young girls naturally but unwittingly give out.
What is normal is that pretty soon you will find a guy nearer your age who will respond to these sexual signals, then you will both fall in love. This quite amazing feeling is simply just a rush of very potent chemicals that are racing through your bodies, enhancing your desires to mate.
Yea, he likes looking at you... The male human brain is a bit funny, sometimes you look at a woman and it's like Bang! She's perfect! And then the brain goes a little haywire... For a man, looking at a woman who ticks his boxes is like eating chocolate... Same sensation, just by looking!
But the dude should have better self control than to stare at a 14 year old, it creeps people out and he should know better. He probably does, you know - very few men don't realise there are some practical limits here... But we're all slaves to our brain, it's hard to resist chocolate!
Well maybe he wasn't looking at you, he was a HUGE FREAK who was checking a young 14 year old girl out! My guess is he probably was a HUGE FREAK WHO LIVES ALONE OR WITH HIS PARENTS WHO WAS CHECKING A 14 YEAR OLD GIRL OUT, TO MAYBE EITHER DO SOMETHING SO SICK AND TWISTED OR HE'S JUST A LOSER! I would be careful around people like that you never know what they might do or be thinking, even if you're 14, 30, or 80 years old you should always be careful no matter what. Now a days people are HUGE SICK BASTARDS!
this will only sound more gross, but even i as a guy, when i was growing up and even sometimes now, (tho im 19) will have 30-40 year old creeps GUYS staring at me in a similar way. i lable those guys as sickos, they are probably just perverted people who should definitively be avoided.
if you look back they will just stare more at you with even creepier stares.
you shouldnt be paranoid about these goons, but just always look around. when i spot creeps like that, i always focus on my posture and try and look more defensive and pist off , so i can give more of a "back the @#$% off vibe" yes its gross, but this just somethin to deal with, ha yuck. sorry it happened
Get used to it. You're female. Guys like looking at us.
The time to worry is if they try any thing more!
This one guy at my last Uni (where I did my BA) used to come and sit in the library and just watch me working. Luckily that's all he ever did. I got the librarian to train the CCTV onto him whenever he came and did it just to be on the safe side. He was sent down, I don't know why.
so i'm 14 years old and, and I went to this event... and this man, probably in his mid 30's kept on staring at me for not reason... like every time. Like even my friend saw... she looked out for me to check... and every time she looked, he was staring at me.... she told me that he was deep in thought... like I didnt even do anything, for god's sake i dont even knoe him. why do you think hes doing this..
