Hello. I feel the need to tell my story. Because, I want you to hear the Bullies point of view. I fully regret what I did that year (only did it in 6th grade and it was out of jealousy) I will never be able to undo the damage my actions cost. Before I get to my point I want to explain why I did it. (I still don't think its right) There was a new girl in are class. I felt like she was trying to take my best friend away. Out of anger and worry of losing my friend I turned my emotions into insults and few times I even kick her or pushed her. My point is that not all bullies do it to "have power" or "to feel strong" many do it because of being victims of bulling them selfs just like I was. The year after I did this I came forward to the girl I hurt and fully apologize not that that would ever make it right. This only was 3 years ago. I still think about it at times. For a while I could not remember everything that happened that year. I was bullied for 2 years after that. Bulling is horrible and I am horrified that I ever was one. However, many people are bullies at some point. Maybe not as bad as me or other people but bulling is common even if its just one mean comment or insult. You can use this in your documentary if you like. I don't mind. I think its only fare to have a bullies point of view also. I am happy to be able to say this and to confess what I did. Because, I know it hurts to be bullied. I just want to say, I told you all this because I feel that telling my story can help kids that get bullied have some understanding on why the bullie does what they do. I hope this helps. Thanks for your time. ~ Bella
Good luck with your efforts but frankly i think we have made the mistake of making everyone out to be a victim where bullying is concerned.
As a result we have children growing up who are destined to be weak adults , with no self responsibility, no self respect and always looking for someone else to blame.
Yes i was bullied at school and finally after enough rather than whimper about it and become a victim stood up for myself and I smashed the bully in the face and broke his nose.
Guess what I was never bullied again, I gained self respect and I grew from that experience. I taught my kids the same .
We tell our kids violence is never the solution to the problem and then send thousands of troops overseas to fight someone elses war.Sometimes you have to take a stand and that includes physical stands.
Bullys are not victims , they are kids who have a sense of power because they have the physical size . They have not been taught boundries and teachers or parents who are always looking for somone or something to blame.
Bullyied kids are victims of their own choosing, they only get picked on because they allow themselves to be, they need to be taught to stand up for themselves.
We are growing weak children with no spine and no substance.
Soft option , psydo do gooder social engineering bullshit is not the answer we have had 40 years or so of it and we have bigger social problems thatn we ever had
If Corporal punsihment was bought back into schools and prisons it would clear up an inordinate amount of issues overnight in my view.
Kathryn is dead on ..
Teasing other people has been around since the beginning of time. When I was a kid our parents taught us what to do if someone bothered us or teased us. When you have the tools you are empowered to take care of yourself. If you stand tall and are not intimidated by others, it gives you confidence and maturity.
A parent's job is to raise their children to be self-sufficient. Young people today seem anxiety-ridden and fragile. Part of growing up is learning to deal with adversity. Maybe if we didn't drug our kids into submission, then drill into their heads they are victims, we wouldn't have so many 30 year olds still living at home, huddled in their room, anguishing over Facebook posts.
I was bullied in 7th grade. I was about 13 when it started. 2 girls would bully me almost everyday during school. One time they cornered me in the bathroom and tried to fight me. They would harass me and taunt me. It was awful. I soon got help from a counseler and everything was fine. If you know someone who is getting bullied, stand up for them! If you are getting bullied, stand up for yourself. I am now in 12th grade and I battling depression. I am getting put on anti-depressants to help my anxiety, stress, and depression. I self harm and I am trying to stop. I have been doing it on and off for 3 years. It has gotten to where sometimes i don't want to live anymore. I cut and cut. This is a hard addiction to beat but I will overcome it. I'm getting some help and getting put on medication. That doesn't make me crazy. I'm just helping myself!! Last April my close friend committed suicide because she was getting bullied. She didn't know how much people loved her. She didn't see how much she meant to everyone. She didn't see and she took her life. She was 14. All because of bullying. :'( It sickens me. It really does. If you know someone who is getting bullied, and you don't do anything, your just as much fault as the bullier is! Stop bullying and speak up! Speak up for others. Speak up for yourself. Lets stop bullying! Asking for help.. There's nothing wrong with that!! It helped me and it is STILL helping me!! Don't hide in the shadows! People can help you if your getting bullied or your just going through hard time. People can help!!
My name is Joseph Thomas and i am directing, producing, and editing a Documentary on Bullying and Bullycide. If you have been bullied and it has caused mental health issues or physical harm i would like to hear from you. I am working on this Documentary for the Organization P.A.S.S. (Parents Advocating for Safe Schools. If you have stories please share them with me.
